trying to create something beautiful out of the broken pieces

Everything in Three’s?? August 16, 2010

Filed under: Family,Life,parenting — kunderwood @ 3:32 pm

We are hitting milestones in three’s this week!  I have to admit it:  I’m (not so) secretly excited!  I’ve always gotten excited when my kids have hit a milestone.  It’s my internal battle with not wanting them to grow up too fast, yet liking when they learn something new/accomplish something/ BECOME MORE MATURE… 😉

This week Tessa started potty training.  If you know me, you know I’ve always said it’s my least favorite part of raising kids to date.  But… as much as I’ve been dreading the process, I’ve been anticipating the outcome- of being all done w/ diapers, potty training, etc.  FOREVER.  So, not only has she been potty training- and doing WELL at it- she has been waking up dry in the mornings and from naps for the past three days that she’s been training.  God knew I needed this!

Avery has started riding her bike- without her training wheels!!  She will have it completely before the end of the week.  She is so excited for Daddy to get home from work today to show him how much more she can do today than she could do yesterday!

Trey… is turning 11.  Eleven.  ELEVEN!  Isn’t that officially pre-teen??  He at least keeps telling me he’s a preteen, so maybe I’ll start believing him.

I think that if it is preteen… that if I am old enough to have an eleven year old/preteen…  that certainly I should be able/old enough/please, dear God, ready… to have all of my children potty trained.

Don’t you think??


Ch-ch-ch-changes August 9, 2010

Filed under: Family,Friends,Life,pieces — kunderwood @ 4:52 pm

It hasn’t gone unnoticed by me that it’s been awhile since I have posted something.  I have thought of it from time to time.  When the thought has occurred to me to maybe write something, I’ve used the excuse that I’m still adjusting to the changes.  Which is true.  But I’m just starting to realize just how deep the changes have been… and how deeply they’re affecting me.

Frankly, I’m not even sure what to say about it.  It’s not like it’s been all bad.  In fact, it’s been so good that it’s been easy to brush aside the hard parts.  I can’t say enough for living near my family.  That has been priceless.  But, it definitely cost dear friendships.  I am just not good at keeping in touch with people.  The great part, though, is that I’ve come to realize (not for the first time) that I have been so blessed with amazing friends in each place I’ve lived!  It’s pretty incredible, actually.  It keeps me going with the hope of making great friends like that here.  And again, my sisters fill that role in such a great way!

One of the many changes taking place is that I am returning to the *paid* workforce for the first time in 11 years.  The last time I taught was when I was pregnant with Trey- who will be 11 next week!  I will be teaching 2nd grade this fall at the local Christian school.  I wasn’t anticipating going back to work this soon.  However, in one year Trey will be entering middle school… and Karis the year after that.  After lots of talking (like for the last 11 years) Brent and I felt strongly that we didn’t want our kids in public middle school.  Middle school is plenty hard enough, without all of the extras.  The only way we could afford to send them to CCA was for me to teach there.  So I applied.  I’m not sure how this first year will go.  It will be an adjustment for all 6 of us for sure.  But the funny thing is that we’re all excited about it!


I miss this… July 19, 2010

Filed under: Life,pieces — kunderwood @ 8:49 am

But I haven’t really known what to say lately.


Sweet Home… Virginia November 10, 2009

Filed under: Life — kunderwood @ 5:30 pm

I can’t believe we are down to less than two weeks in the good ol’ state of Virginia!  We have spent 12 years here, 6 in Williamsburg, 6 in Richmond.  We have had 2 kids in each place.  We have so many fun memories (and a few not so good ones) and I’ve spent a lot of time lately relishing what we have.

So here are a few things I will miss about the “South”…

  • friends
  • sweet tea
  • warm days… all year long…
  • southern drawls
  • flowers blooming in February
  • grits (yeah, that’s right.  even if i swore i would never eat them, i ended up loving them.)
  • seafood that doesn’t come from Red Lobster
  • Trader Joe’s (yes, i realize that’s not southern… but it’s here and not where i’m going!)
  • sweet old men, with their southern accents, being gentlemen
  • did i mention, FRIENDS??!!

Things I won’t miss…

  • mosquitoes all year long
  • spiders and bugs in my house
  • caring where I am in relation to the Mason-Dixon line 😉

Things I have to look forward to…

  • living close to my sisters
  • my kids being close to their cousins- and for me getting to be close to my nieces and nephews!
  • seeing old friends, making new ones
  • walking to the library, ice skating rink, pizza joint (when it’s not freakin’ freezing outside, of course- that month will be LOVELY!)
  • having beautiful, rolling hills, right outside my door
  • being near the Finger Lakes… the wineries there don’t hurt either!
  • did i mention the pizza??  the BEST pizza in the world!
  • Soulful Cup coffee
  • did I mention my SISTERS??!!

I just noticed how many things on both lists have to do with food… yeah.  There’s no surprise there!

I can’t decide whether to be sad or happy… probably because I am both, all the time.  I have had 12 amazing years, filled with many amazing friends and experiences.  Virginia will always have a special place in my heart.  But soon I’ll be going home!


Yelling November 7, 2009

Filed under: Family,Life,parenting,pieces — kunderwood @ 10:53 am

Over the last few years (or maybe over the last few kids) I’ve become a yelling mom.  It doesn’t happen all the time.  In fact, most of my friends would probably say that they’ve never seen me yell at my kids.  I think my neighbors would disagree.  But sometimes I totally lose it and yell.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that this isn’t a good thing.  In fact, I think it’s extremely detrimental to my kids.  I don’t approve of my behavior, because frankly, it says 1. I’m out of control and 2. I’m selfish enough to know it, and yet do it anyway.  So, I’ve been trying really hard to stop yelling.  And when I do, I have been having to apologize to my kids… which usually results in them thinking that whatever behavior they were doing in the first place to get yelled at suddenly became okay to do because mom was the one apologizing, not them.  So then I’ve had to go back and fix that too.  It’s really a lot more work on my part in the long run to yell.

Well, I came upon this blog this morning from a reformed yelling mom.  It’s such basic information, but it’s a good reminder for me.  Plus it’s just nice to know that I’m not the only mom who has or does struggle with this.

Welcome to my Brain

And here’s her “How to Stop Yelling” post



Filed under: blogs — kunderwood @ 10:34 am

Okay, so I don’t know if this is the kind of post that makes up for not blogging for a couple of months, but I just laughed so hard!  Every once in awhile, spam gets through on my comments.  Thankfully, I have to approve all new commentors before they are posted.  The spam has gotten to the point where it looks like someone is making a sincere comment about your blog, but it’s totally generic and fake.  Well, here’s the latest one I just got:

“Hi!  Maybe you no see Jenna Jamison nude???”

Yeah.  There are no words.


Where, oh where October 14, 2009

Filed under: blogs,Life — kunderwood @ 1:23 pm

has my blogroll gone?  Oh where, oh where could it be??

Seriously, I just noticed it’s not on the side of my page anymore.  Anyone know where it went?  Or how to get it back?  Yeah, I’m that technologically savvy challenged.