Over the last few years (or maybe over the last few kids) I’ve become a yelling mom. It doesn’t happen all the time. In fact, most of my friends would probably say that they’ve never seen me yell at my kids. I think my neighbors would disagree. But sometimes I totally lose it and yell.
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that this isn’t a good thing. In fact, I think it’s extremely detrimental to my kids. I don’t approve of my behavior, because frankly, it says 1. I’m out of control and 2. I’m selfish enough to know it, and yet do it anyway. So, I’ve been trying really hard to stop yelling. And when I do, I have been having to apologize to my kids… which usually results in them thinking that whatever behavior they were doing in the first place to get yelled at suddenly became okay to do because mom was the one apologizing, not them. So then I’ve had to go back and fix that too. It’s really a lot more work on my part in the long run to yell.
Well, I came upon this blog this morning from a reformed yelling mom. It’s such basic information, but it’s a good reminder for me. Plus it’s just nice to know that I’m not the only mom who has or does struggle with this.
And here’s her “How to Stop Yelling” post