trying to create something beautiful out of the broken pieces

To My Mama Friends April 21, 2009

Filed under: blogs,Family,food!,Friends,helping,Humor,Life,parenting — kunderwood @ 7:59 am

Here is a really fun/helpful/creative/entertaining/make you feel better or worse as a mama blog!  I have read it several times before from my other friends’ blogs, but just added it to my blogroll finally in hopes of remembering to read it more.  Guess I should just add it to my Google Reader.  Anyway, I wanted to share it with those of you who don’t know about it yet!

Mama Manifesto is written my several women in various stages of being a mom.  They discuss just about everything from giving tips on parenting, sharing recipes, giving ideas for living in healthy and creative ways, evalutating different products and sharing the goings on in their own homes and how they are dealing with them… or in some cases asking for advice on how to deal with them.  I enjoy the humorous, honest way they look at their lives and they way they take the serious things seriously, while laughing off the things that we sometimes forget to laugh off.

I hope you like it too!


Tee Time Everyone! April 13, 2009

Filed under: Friends,helping,Life — kunderwood @ 2:25 pm

This week marks the anniversary of the Virginia Tech shooting in which one of my friends, Alicia, lost her brother.  While this is a remarkably hard time for her and others, it’s a time for the rest of us to show our love and support.  One way to do this is by joining in a golf tournament that has been set up in her brother’s honor.

Here are the details:

Castle Rock Golf and Recreation of Pembroke, VA will host a golf tournament in honor of Jarrett Lane, one of the 32 students killed at VA Tech on April 16th, 2007. All proceeds will benefit the Jarrett Lane Memorial Fund and its mission to better the future of deserving youth in Giles Country.

The tournament will be held on Saturday May 9th, with a tee time of 9:00am. Teams of four will play on one of the area’s most beautiful and challenging golf courses. The registration fee is $300 per team, and teams can register by calling the golf course before May 8th at (540) 626-7276.

Just to let you know, the Jarrett Lane Memorial Fund is used to provide college scholarships to Narrows High Grad. We have a vision of expanding this to provide financial assistance to deserving youth in Giles County who wish to participate in various academic, athletic and leadership development programs.


Manna January 13, 2009

Filed under: faith,helping,Life — kunderwood @ 6:20 pm

So the story goes like this.  God has his people wandering in the wilderness, basically walking in circles for days, weeks, years.  He provides food for them in the form of “manna.”  I think the loose meaning of the word is, “What the heck is this?”  Before this, manna hadn’t existed.  But as they wandered, God would provide it daily… falling from the sky to the ground.  He gave them one direction with this food.  He told them to take just what they needed for the day.  Each morning, new manna would fall.  Each day they were to take just that day’s provisions.  To ensure they only took their share, the manna would rot if they took more than they needed.

So the purpose of this?  One would suppose to teach them to trust God to provide for them daily.  Another beautiful explanation I’ve heard is that we can relate the manna to God’s mercy.  He gives us new mercy every morning, because let’s face it, we mess up everyday.

A friend and I have been talking about my previous post, “A Dilemma,” and I think it pertains to part of that too.  The idea of manna- taking exactly what we need for the day- has totally escaped us.  We all (rich and poor, alike) accumulate as much as we can.  We don’t trust that the food will be there tomorrow.  We don’t trust that we’ll have enough in the savings account.  We don’t trust that we have enough “stuff” like cars, clothes, furniture, toys, etc.

Trust me, I am the same way.

But if we all took the manna in the way it was intended… what would that mean on a local or global level?  Would we have poverty?  My friend even pointed out- would we have obesity, diabetes, heart disease?

We at least wouldn’t have the extremes in wealth and poverty.  If everyone took only their share- what they really needed- there would be enough for everyone.  Now THAT is an amazing thought!


A Dilemma… January 12, 2009

Filed under: faith,helping,Life — kunderwood @ 10:32 pm

So  I’ve been thinking through some things over the last 24 hours and trying to process.  These are just some initial thoughts and by no means the answers.  Those will take awhile to come.

Our church is seeking to make a difference in the city of Richmond.  Brent and I have a specific focus on helping those who are oppressed in our city, whether because of race, income or both.  With that comes the desire to educate those who are planting this church with us.  We are still trying to figure out how to do this in reality, though.

This scenario happened last night, but is a good example of what we’re dealing with.

Around Thanksgiving a lady from the projects started coming to our gatherings who Brent knows from some non-profit work he has done.  She has several children and then also is usually caring for several other children as well.  She came last night with nine children to our monthly “Common Meal” before our meeting together.  While this is wonderful, there is a divide that I’ve been trying to hash out in my brain, and therefore this blabbering…

Last night as people were going through the food line, the lady and the children came in the door.  They immediately cut the people already in line for the food.  Everyone was very gracious, even when the same children came back several times- cutting in line each time- while others stood still, without food.

Although there really are some great things going on, here are a couple of problems I see.  There are two mentalities going on that have to be addressed.  One, is the “us vs. them” or “haves vs. have nots” that the church people are communicating even though they don’t mean to or realize they’re doing it.  While what they are doing seems kind and generous, they are enabling this concept that they are different.

The flip side is the mentality behind what drives this lady (and in turn, the children).  She has learned how to use the system… the city’s system, the church’s system, the non-profit’s system.  Who can blame her?  This is what she’s been handed.  However, she’s learned it all so well, she’s been taking more than her share.  Not too unlike those in the suburbs, eh?  But by us standing by, and letting her cut in line over and over we are enabling the idea that she can just continue to take.

This is not an attack on this lady, or our church people.  This is a normal occurance all over the place.  Our desire is to break through those barriers though.  At some point, we all (church people and project people) are going to have to engage each other.  We are going to have to have real conversations and real relationships.  We are going to have to see each other as equals and all a part of this new community.

Now… to figure out how to be one people…


306 August 25, 2008

Filed under: Family,helping,Life — kunderwood @ 4:53 pm

That’s the number of pounds of food that my kids collected and delivered to the Central Virginia Food Bank today!!

306 pounds!

That is equal to 306 meals… or feeding 306 people!

It’s amazing to me, in a really sad way, how often I think that there isn’t anything I can do to help.  I’m just one person.  The need is so great.  What can measly ole me do?

But look at what my kids taught me!  A 9, 7 and 4  year old can do lots!!!