trying to create something beautiful out of the broken pieces

Everything in Three’s?? August 16, 2010

Filed under: Family,Life,parenting — kunderwood @ 3:32 pm

We are hitting milestones in three’s this week!  I have to admit it:  I’m (not so) secretly excited!  I’ve always gotten excited when my kids have hit a milestone.  It’s my internal battle with not wanting them to grow up too fast, yet liking when they learn something new/accomplish something/ BECOME MORE MATURE… 😉

This week Tessa started potty training.  If you know me, you know I’ve always said it’s my least favorite part of raising kids to date.  But… as much as I’ve been dreading the process, I’ve been anticipating the outcome- of being all done w/ diapers, potty training, etc.  FOREVER.  So, not only has she been potty training- and doing WELL at it- she has been waking up dry in the mornings and from naps for the past three days that she’s been training.  God knew I needed this!

Avery has started riding her bike- without her training wheels!!  She will have it completely before the end of the week.  She is so excited for Daddy to get home from work today to show him how much more she can do today than she could do yesterday!

Trey… is turning 11.  Eleven.  ELEVEN!  Isn’t that officially pre-teen??  He at least keeps telling me he’s a preteen, so maybe I’ll start believing him.

I think that if it is preteen… that if I am old enough to have an eleven year old/preteen…  that certainly I should be able/old enough/please, dear God, ready… to have all of my children potty trained.

Don’t you think??


Ch-ch-ch-changes August 9, 2010

Filed under: Family,Friends,Life,pieces — kunderwood @ 4:52 pm

It hasn’t gone unnoticed by me that it’s been awhile since I have posted something.  I have thought of it from time to time.  When the thought has occurred to me to maybe write something, I’ve used the excuse that I’m still adjusting to the changes.  Which is true.  But I’m just starting to realize just how deep the changes have been… and how deeply they’re affecting me.

Frankly, I’m not even sure what to say about it.  It’s not like it’s been all bad.  In fact, it’s been so good that it’s been easy to brush aside the hard parts.  I can’t say enough for living near my family.  That has been priceless.  But, it definitely cost dear friendships.  I am just not good at keeping in touch with people.  The great part, though, is that I’ve come to realize (not for the first time) that I have been so blessed with amazing friends in each place I’ve lived!  It’s pretty incredible, actually.  It keeps me going with the hope of making great friends like that here.  And again, my sisters fill that role in such a great way!

One of the many changes taking place is that I am returning to the *paid* workforce for the first time in 11 years.  The last time I taught was when I was pregnant with Trey- who will be 11 next week!  I will be teaching 2nd grade this fall at the local Christian school.  I wasn’t anticipating going back to work this soon.  However, in one year Trey will be entering middle school… and Karis the year after that.  After lots of talking (like for the last 11 years) Brent and I felt strongly that we didn’t want our kids in public middle school.  Middle school is plenty hard enough, without all of the extras.  The only way we could afford to send them to CCA was for me to teach there.  So I applied.  I’m not sure how this first year will go.  It will be an adjustment for all 6 of us for sure.  But the funny thing is that we’re all excited about it!


I miss this… July 19, 2010

Filed under: Life,pieces — kunderwood @ 8:49 am

But I haven’t really known what to say lately.


Sweet Home… Virginia November 10, 2009

Filed under: Life — kunderwood @ 5:30 pm

I can’t believe we are down to less than two weeks in the good ol’ state of Virginia!  We have spent 12 years here, 6 in Williamsburg, 6 in Richmond.  We have had 2 kids in each place.  We have so many fun memories (and a few not so good ones) and I’ve spent a lot of time lately relishing what we have.

So here are a few things I will miss about the “South”…

  • friends
  • sweet tea
  • warm days… all year long…
  • southern drawls
  • flowers blooming in February
  • grits (yeah, that’s right.  even if i swore i would never eat them, i ended up loving them.)
  • seafood that doesn’t come from Red Lobster
  • Trader Joe’s (yes, i realize that’s not southern… but it’s here and not where i’m going!)
  • sweet old men, with their southern accents, being gentlemen
  • did i mention, FRIENDS??!!

Things I won’t miss…

  • mosquitoes all year long
  • spiders and bugs in my house
  • caring where I am in relation to the Mason-Dixon line 😉

Things I have to look forward to…

  • living close to my sisters
  • my kids being close to their cousins- and for me getting to be close to my nieces and nephews!
  • seeing old friends, making new ones
  • walking to the library, ice skating rink, pizza joint (when it’s not freakin’ freezing outside, of course- that month will be LOVELY!)
  • having beautiful, rolling hills, right outside my door
  • being near the Finger Lakes… the wineries there don’t hurt either!
  • did i mention the pizza??  the BEST pizza in the world!
  • Soulful Cup coffee
  • did I mention my SISTERS??!!

I just noticed how many things on both lists have to do with food… yeah.  There’s no surprise there!

I can’t decide whether to be sad or happy… probably because I am both, all the time.  I have had 12 amazing years, filled with many amazing friends and experiences.  Virginia will always have a special place in my heart.  But soon I’ll be going home!


Yelling November 7, 2009

Filed under: Family,Life,parenting,pieces — kunderwood @ 10:53 am

Over the last few years (or maybe over the last few kids) I’ve become a yelling mom.  It doesn’t happen all the time.  In fact, most of my friends would probably say that they’ve never seen me yell at my kids.  I think my neighbors would disagree.  But sometimes I totally lose it and yell.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that this isn’t a good thing.  In fact, I think it’s extremely detrimental to my kids.  I don’t approve of my behavior, because frankly, it says 1. I’m out of control and 2. I’m selfish enough to know it, and yet do it anyway.  So, I’ve been trying really hard to stop yelling.  And when I do, I have been having to apologize to my kids… which usually results in them thinking that whatever behavior they were doing in the first place to get yelled at suddenly became okay to do because mom was the one apologizing, not them.  So then I’ve had to go back and fix that too.  It’s really a lot more work on my part in the long run to yell.

Well, I came upon this blog this morning from a reformed yelling mom.  It’s such basic information, but it’s a good reminder for me.  Plus it’s just nice to know that I’m not the only mom who has or does struggle with this.

Welcome to my Brain

And here’s her “How to Stop Yelling” post


Where, oh where October 14, 2009

Filed under: blogs,Life — kunderwood @ 1:23 pm

has my blogroll gone?  Oh where, oh where could it be??

Seriously, I just noticed it’s not on the side of my page anymore.  Anyone know where it went?  Or how to get it back?  Yeah, I’m that technologically savvy challenged.


U2- 360 Tour October 2, 2009

Filed under: Life,Uncategorized — kunderwood @ 11:23 pm

I fell in love with U2 back in high school, but even then didn’t realize the phenomenon that they were/are.  I simply thought “Joshua Tree” was an amazing album.  I promptly went off to Christian College and lived in a bubble for the next 4 years, so I missed out on “Zooropa” and “Pop” for the most part, but came back in when they released their “Best of 1980-1990” album.   I was hooked again!  We don’t see a lot of concerts, but Brent and I had decided by their last tour, “Vertigo,” that we would try our best to get to a concert.  There’s some things you just want to say you’ve done in life, and I had already missed out on seeing Michael Jordan play live. 🙂

After seeing “Vertigo,” we knew that we would try to see all of their tours from here on out.  Much to Trey’s dismay, we didn’t take him to that concert.  Or this one.  Guess we’re going to owe him big the next time around.  But 14 sounds like a better age for a concert than 6 or 10… of course, don’t tell him about the kid his age that Bono pulled up on stage, ran around the ring with, and then ended up giving his shades to at our concert.

So here are a few of the pictures from an amazing night.  Not even the drunk, racist idiots in the row in front of us could take away from the fun of the show… well, not entirely.  I would have definitely enjoyed it more without them!

U2 2009 014The stage has been described as everything from a crab, to a spaceship… all I can say is that it definitely takes you where U2 intends to take you… to a time and place where people love one another and stand up for each other when justice isn’t being done.  Plus, there’s just something really cool about the way the guys interact with each other.

U2 2009 086 Bono is all rock star.  He knows it.  He totally uses it, too, in the sense that he knows his voice is heard.  So he talks.  A lot.  About what is going on in the venue’s backyard, and around the world.  He doesn’t let you just sit there and listen to their music.  He makes you hear their message too.

U2 2009 093Then there’s The Edge.  One of my favorite things is to watch musicians who are truly enjoying playing their instruments.  He is one of those guys.  There’s just something about watching him play the guitar.  He has such joy.  U2 2009 136Larry is funny to me because I always think of him as the stoic one.  One of my friends saw them last night for the first time and said she thought he looked like he was in pain the whole time.  I just laughed.  I hope he wasn’t in pain and I was laughing, I just think he’s that kind of drummer.  He’s not all dramatic and all over the place.  He does his job.  And does it well.

U2 2009 104And then there’s Adam.  Adam mesmerizes me like nothing else.  Partly it’s because he can totally rock the bass… and he’s not young.  Mostly it’s because this dude isn’t drinking the Kool-Aid.  You know, the other three are definitely expressing their spiritual thoughts and ideas through their music, and he’s not.  What really grips me, though, is that I don’t think it’s because he’s a sellout, going for the U2 fame and money.  I think it’s because of what it says about him as a person… and maybe more importantly, what it says about the other three and the way they treat him.  There isn’t judgement there.  There is brotherhood.  There is love.  There is the living out of what they sing about night after night.

And maybe that’s one of the reasons I want to see them every chance I get.  Because besides really great music from some mediocre musicians (Bono’s words, not mine), you see the embodiement of the lyrics of their music every time they join together.  And that’s somewhere I’m willing to be transported.